No matter which therapist you ask about the typical types of clients that come to their office for a consultation, you will tend to hear most – if not all – of them say that a good number of them are people with disabilities. Some may have a neurological condition such as ADHD, ADD, autism, etc. Others may be dealing with a physical disability due to an accident, illness, and various causes. These individuals feel the need to turn to a therapist often because they have such a difficult time coping with their situation on their own.
The truth is that the disabled folks who ask for help from mental health professionals are genuinely commendable. It is easy to let the darkness swallow so that you can’t feel pain anymore. It is easy to allow the sneers and the awful names that narrow-minded people throw at you to bring you to a point in which you are already hanging by a thread. However, such individuals with disabilities believe – or want to believe – that life does not and should not end because you are not like everyone else. That makes them some of the most reliable folks in this planet, frankly speaking.
“Building assertiveness also means to not shy away from confrontation. Confrontation is arousing, and those who’d rather avoid confrontation would not only feel more arousal than those who do not, but also would be more likely to interpret this arousal as fear,” writes Joachim I Krueger Ph.D.
Importance Of Standing Up For Yourself
One of the things that a therapist can teach to their clients, especially to the people who feel like they are the underdogs in this perfectly imperfect world, is being able to stand up for themselves. After all, this task is not as effortless as getting on your two feet and making sure that you do not fall right after. Even a leg amputee or someone numb from the waist down should be able to do it without anyone’s help. The only tools you need here are your determination to live happily and the courage to do what’s right for yourself and everyone you love.
You have to learn how to stand up for yourself because:
1. You Cannot Let Others To Fight Your Battles
Considering we are aiming to be transparent here, it is not rude to say at all that it matters to know how to fight your battles on your own. Not many people think that they have the strength to do since they are already dealing with a disability. Some even get upset if they go through a hardship all of a sudden, and no one has come to their aid at once.
Although you may be the only disabled person in your family or circle of friends, you should remember that everyone around you tends to experience ups and downs as well. They cannot come to the rescue 24/7; you cannot expect them to drop everything immediately because some lawless stranger made fun of you. No, you need to figure out how to face your adversaries head on even if you are alone.
2. You Want To Show To The Rest Of The World That Your Disability Does Not Make You Weak
“Living with a disability can be a source of value, meaning and pride, rather than a flaw or weakness,” says Elizabeth Mazur, Ph.D.
As awful as it may sound, having a disability tends to make folks assume that you are weak. When your legs get paralyzed due to an illness, after all, you will not be able to get on your feet. You may have to depend on a wheelchair or walker even when you need to use the bathroom. If you are blind, some people may instantly think that you cannot live on your own or travel to different places all by yourself.
By learning how to stand up for yourself, though, it will not take much time to prove to everyone that you are far from being weak. Your legs may no longer be functional, but you can find activities that will benefit not only you but also other individuals. Your vision may be impaired, but you can rely on your other senses to live without outside help every day. Remember: it’s all in the mind.
3. You Can Earn Everyone’s Respect This Way
Showing your sense of independence despite being in a situation in which you have every right to ask for help forever is exceptionally remarkable. Imagine, even though you have a disability that is most likely permanent, it does not hinder you from living well. You don’t have to depend on your loved ones; you are even capable of making money instead of relying on the financial assistance that federal agencies and non-profit organizations may give to you willingly. You can do all that and more because you want to, and that is something you will undoubtedly gain a lot of respect for.
“Start by finding and talking to someone safe where you can be safe to be the vulnerable you. Give birth to your core self and try to recognize when you are telling yourself to be different in order to fit in,” writes Kimberly Key Ph.D.
Life is too short to let naysayers ruin it. At the same time, life is too precious to allow a disability to prevent you living; however you want to. Consider the benefits of standing up for yourself now!